she wans to experience something new.
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
just broke up with my girl a week ago reason being her wanting to meet a new guy (experiencing something new).
the whole problem began like this.
she was often being stressed up by school work and activities and shes always telling mi how tired and stressed is she due to school. well i play as her listening ear all the time, but i always tend to provide her some solutions to her problems like telling her to take a break from the activities or such, and sometimes i get angry because she doesnt listen to me, as she takes responsibility in what she does and always believes that she shouldn't slack from her work. thus she usually end up having to comfort me while shes stil feeling fustrated from her stress. i didn't realised that after the breakup, after we talked about it. shes said that shes tired of me being that way. and she had met some one who can she can really talk to, and she wans to give it a try.
about two weeks before the breakup, she went for an expedition trip with her school club, there she had a male clubmate as her kayaking partner, so they ended up talking alot during the whole time while on the trip and realised they click really well. thus she opens up to him totally. i guess. and they became really good friends after that.
the other guy began to stick to her after school, going home with her on the same bus even tho she was with her friend, they just get along together, and some time later, he confessed to her saying he likes her.
she was troubled by it at first, saying that she felt special being with the other guy, something different while bring with me. she thinks that she had kinda fallen for him and she knows its impossible to like 2 guys at the same time. thus she conclude that 1 of them has to b genuine and not the other. and picked me as the latter.
what im confused about is that, we are stil being lovey-dovey before the expedition, but after the confession, she acts as if she had totally lost her feelings for me, why is this so? is she bent on moving on with the new guy? but how can she deny the love we once shared only after being with the guy for a short period of time.
is there any way that i can save this relationship?
we are still in contact, but shes been distancing herself from me. she made it very clear to me that she wans us to be nothing more then friends for the time being, while shes still getting closer to the guy. how can i rework this around, or can i only start all over again, be her friend and woo her back? i really love her, even though i wanted her to be happy, but i just can't bear to let her go.
She still has feelings for you, but wants to give this other guy a chance.
So she tells you that you can only be friends. Take her up on her word, be the best friend you can be (without pushing her away) and hope that things don't work out for them.
Then you will be there waiting.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com