Spark gone or what?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Dated guy A for 2 years
Broke up due to family issues
Dated another guy for about a year, did not work out.
After a few months, started dating guy A again, things went well
I left to study abroad, for 2 years, that too went well
Now im back, its been 4 months, all well but NOW
(oh btw, parents from both sides are okay wit the relationship now)
I have started to feel unsure.
I know by next year he wants to get engaged.
He seems sure
But I am not.
I sometimes feel the spark is gone and this might be the reason
OR am I jus bored of him, is it time to move on?
He is a great great great guy!! Am I scared I wont find someone like him
Is that why im holding on to him ? Cause I am afraid I wont find someone like him and cant bare to see him wit someone else?
We have dreams together, we have future plans, etc
But what happened? Where did we go wrong? Where did I go wrong?
Why do I feel this way?
Do I really need to detach myself from him and move on?
Since you are unsure, why not give it another month or two?
See if the spark is really gone and if you are really bored with him.
He may detect that you are acting differently in which case be honest with him.
If after two months you have decided that the spark is gone then you will need to move on. It isn't fair to yourself or to him to pretend something that isn't real.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com