Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
HI I'm a 21 year old boy.
There has been this girl i have known now for almost a decade.
She is a member of the group of friends I am in. although I had known her the longest)
This year however we kinda lost contact.
But a month and a half ago I ran into her outside a bar. I convinced her to stick with us for the rest of the evening and she did.
Since then everything went really fast and we where met almost everyday. And started text messaging each other all the time. I really enjoyed spending time with her.
But then a 3 weeks ago I realized there was more then just friendship on my part.
You have to realize here that i have never before had romantic feelings for her but she had always been a good friend.
So at first I really did not like having this feelings. and hoped they would go away but they only grew stronger and stronger.
I realize I cannot give you a description of how she acts around me and let you tell me if she likes me or not. Because I know that the discretion would not be a sober one and would be influenced to much by my feelings. I would only give a description from which anyone would say "she likes you"
Thats why my question is about myself.
I would really like to tell her how I feel I am sure that if she would turn me down she would do it in a sweet way and she would still be my friend.
But I still just cant do it.
I have gone out and done more romantic things with her, but I just cannot get myself to make my feelings clear to her...
This is very very hard for me.
Which is very weird because I flirt with girls all the time,
and date regularly but I guess thats easy for me because those girls are not really important to me.
There is some sort of flirting between us and when I have another date my friends jokingly say to us that we have such an open relationship which could be followed by a comment on my part saying "Yeah I also close an eye when she is with someone else"
But the truth is she has not been with any other guy since we started hanging out again.(although guys try all the time but then fail miserably)
Anyway my real question is. C
ould you give me some tips on how to make my feelings for this girl clear.
I know I could never ever just blab it out so I would prefer a more subtle way.
The flirting is there already, but I just cant get myself to take the next step.
I hope you can give me some good tips,
A confused friend.
A good way to tell her subtlely is to simply say "I am developing feelings for you."
This will leave the door open for her to let you know how she feels.
If she says she has feelings for you also, then you can try to figure out how strong those feelings are and perhaps ask her to be your girlfriend.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com