how to contact my ex who is avoiding me?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
hi, i dated a guy last dec, but things went wrong just 2 weeks after. i always thought that he was playing me, but i was in love with him too, so i was struggling a lot, and acted crazy. i did all kinds of things that i should ve not done eg stalking him, calling many times a day, but when him called back, i fighted with him...
then fianlly, i stopped and he contacted me again but my manner was so bad, because i thought played me and i decided to hate him. i even did sth to hurt him. lol
however, i cant never get rid of him, i think about him everyday.
i called him 2 weeks ago, n he didn't pick so i called for many times and finally he picked up and we talked for an hour, everything seemed fine, and we decided to meet. on the day we were supposed to meet, he didnt call or show up, so i got mad and sent him an email included all kinds of blaminngs. He called so we talked and i cried in front of him. i didnt say anything like i missed him or loved him. we just talked like friends until he flirted me. i was confused and i asked y he flirted me. we argued about it, he thought i saw him as a jerk and i thought he didnt respect me at all. flirting is always the problem between us, whenever he flirts, i avoid. another major problem is that he always doesnt show up on the date when supposed to meet, and i kept calling and emailed him with all kinds of blamings. he ends up calling and just talk, which really upsets me.
anyways, here is my question it has been two weeks from the day he called, i really want to contact him, but i dont know how. i txt msg him on the following after he called that i miss him and he can call me when he wants to see me, but he never replies. i want to email him cox it is more indirectly and i think may things easier for both of us, i m gonna ask whether we can still keep in touch as friends? if yes, y not go out for coffee and have fun. i m not sure if i should invite him for coffee rite the way.
by the way, i have learnt to control my emotion better now, how can i show him that i m better person now? he has done school, so we have no chance to meet on campus anymore, i have no chance to meet him by chance.
i know he has a girlfriend now. would this become become an obstructtion between me and him?
sorry, my text is so long, hope wont give u much work load. waiting for your response. regards
Ask him out for coffee "as friends."
When you are with him, he will see how you have changed and will feel more attracted to you.
But then you have to deal with his girlfriend. Ask him how serious they are and wish him good luck if they are serious. This will really impress him.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com