Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Ok, so me and the ex have been broken up for almost 3 mons now, after datin for 2 years. We still keep in touch pretty often, maybe like once a week or so, mainly just textin tho and occasionally a call. Whenever he finds out I have been hanging out with other guys, he will always send me a random text just out of no where, either saying something sarcastic about me and the guy I am hangin out with, or he will just say something completely mean. He was the one to break up with me because he just wanted to live life and not be soo "tied down" at least for right now, so why would he care if i was with someonelse or not?Then I will give him a call every once in a while to say hi, and we can easily talk for like a half hour, and I am always the one hanging up the phone first. After he found out I was hanging out with this guy, whom I am just friends with because I dont want a relationship right now either.. my ex started hangin out with a new girl as well. When I last talked to him on the phone, I was mature about it and told him I was happy for him and that it looked like she was a good girl. He quickly responded that she was just a "friend" and thats shes just really cool to hang out with. It kind of bothers me a little bit, but I just played it off. He has pictures on his myspace of them, and they look like a couple, but he says they arent and his status still says single. There are a few of them kissing, and you can tell he is the one taking the pic, and he HATED taking those kinds of pictures when we were together.. so it's kind of weird in a way! My friends just think hes tryin to make me jealous, and since it looked like ive moved on by hanging out with a new guy, he wanted to make himself seem that way too or something. i dont get him.. we get along great, then once he finds out something about me and another guy, he will text something smartass or just something completely random. almost like it bothers him. if he still has feelings, (i could just be imagining it! haha) then why cant he just come out and say something, instead of just being a complete ass. is that the easiest thing for a guy to do...is just to act like a "tough guy"? haha i dont really know what to think, so any advice would be awesome :)
I agree with your deductions about this guy.
He seems to still be jealous. This actually isn't to unusual for guys to remain jealous of their ex's even if they did the breaking up. He probably had mixed feelings about breaking up with you and acts out of confusion... which only causes more confusion.
Although you didn't say so, it seems like you still care for this guy. If so, keep up the talking on the phone and see what develops. If you don't care about his then stop worrying about his behavior.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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