Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
my boyfriend of four years just walked out on me(im 5 months pregnant) and our wo myear old son. I didnt hear from him for a couple of weeks he finally called and to tell me that he never wanted to be with me again and how i was a complete waste of time. i dont understand what happend i thought we were in love and happy i know you cant tell me why he left or if he will ever come back i was hoping you could help me deal with what to do now im so confused and hurt he still calls every now and then just tosay hey but it always turn into a fight because i dont care about anything he has to say except why did he leave he still wont give me a reason and i havent seen him since i just want to know how do i forgive or forget i need someone to tell me what to do........ if thats possible thanks
You won't be able to forgive or forget easily or soon.
It would be good if he could explain why he left but he seems to be afraid to tell you. Try to gently help him to overcome his fear and help you understand what happened. Let him know you won't be angry whatever he says. (You probably will be angry but save that for later.)
Learning why he left will help you forgive and forget. As long as you believe what he says. Make sure you let him know that you are understanding and that you don't feel that he is a bad person. He must have his reasons and however they might hurt you, you would be better off hearing the reasons rather than imagining and worrying over what they are.
Hope this helps! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com