Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
ok firstly i am going to say that what ever advice i get i dont think that i can ever stop loving this girl.
i met my first love when i was 15 we went out for 6 months i felt true happyness, this girl showed me what love feels like for the first time. anyway we broke up before i was enrold to atent her school we did not speak for one year even thoe we were in such close vacinity, then one day we were sudenly talking we would stay up for hours everynight talking for somtimes 6 hours via the internet then we started talking on the phone every night but there was no direct indication that we liked eachother again, eventualy we spoke in person outside of school (we never spoke at school) and no suprize we comunicated realy well and were very close, soon after this we hooked up but just as a so called release of sexual tention but we did it again after that and a few more more times after that she said she didnt want things to become to seriuos yet she would still hold me like i was her boyfriend etc. anyway she went on holidays for a few weeks and since she has returned she has been acting very distant towards me and she has been talking to one of my mates very closely its fusterating me so badly i have no idea what to do! there is a definate atraction between us, we speak so well together we know all about eachother we are comfotabel around eachother everything! if it helps to know. we go to the same school but we do not comunicate at all on school grounds this mate of mine likes her and she knows it and it is also very obvious that i like her. stuffs realy messed up but i dont care i will not loose her i will try anything and try it for as long as it takes! please help as best you can thank you.
You need to try very hard to become her close friend again.
Get her to talk about her holidays or just ask her to hang out. Try phone calls, etc. until you find what she feels most comfortable with. She probably didn't change her feelings toward you... she is just trying out something new. She could get over it very quickly...or not.
But you have to plan on her coming back in your direction. Be ready to talk about interesting things, to share feelings, and to be attentive to her (hugs, smiles, touches, etc.) Also, take care of yourself and she will notice: eat right, get fit, dress nicely, take care of your teeth, breath, body odor, hair, etc.
Some of this is sure to help and as a bonus may attract other girls your way.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com