i love him so much and all he does is confuse me
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Me and my ex started going out about three years ago after he has persued me for over a year. We were totally in love for over a year untill one day (after agreeing to move in with me only a week before) he finished it saying he didn't love me anymore. We became good friends again and about a year after breaking up we started sleeping together again just as friends and this continued untill two months ago when he moved down south for a new job. I thought I was fine untill this weekend when we went to a festival together. We spent all our time together and quite alot alone. He was very touchy feely, always hugging me or stroking my face, when we were in the car he kept leaning back and holding my hand. On the second night I was a bit too drunk and so he took me back to the tents to sit down for a bit inbetween acts, when it came to leaving i couldn't and even though i told him to leave he stayed and sat beside me missing his favorite act. He also kept saying stuff like he has to look after me a bit more than anyone else. On the other hand though he openly flirts with girls infront of me and discusses fit ones. He even told me about the girl he fancies but got really angry when i asked questions. The point is i've fallen for him again and i can't talk to him because i'd have to do it over the phone but i think he still feels something too, I'm so confused!
When you talk with him on the phone tell him how much you enjoyed his visit and that you wish you could see more of each other. Tell him you are starting to "develop feelings" for him again and ask how he feels.
You won't be confused if you approach him subtley and gently and get him to open it. It certainly sounds like he likes you and you should take advantage of this time to try to move things forward.
Maybe he is lonely and needs you for companionship on the phone. He may be talking about the other girls to try to get you jealous and attract you (although it usually doesn't work.) Maybe you should visit him.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com