Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
LATELY WE BOTH HAVE BEEN GOING THROUGH ALOT I WAS PREGNANT WITH TWINS LOST THE LITTLE BOY AND STILL CARRYING THE GIRL WHEN I LOST MY LIL BOY I ALSO LOST MY CLOSEST AUNT AND WE BOTH HAD TWO FUNERALS TO GO TO THE SAME DAY AT THE SAME CEMETRY MY AUNT AND LIL BOY, HERE
RECENTLY ME AND MY FIANCE HAVE BEEN ARGUING I THINKS ITS MAINLY BECAUSE WERE BOTH GOING THROUGH ALOT BUT I FEEL AS IF ALL I DO IS ARGUE WITH HIM AND ITS NOT BECAUSE IM UNHAPPY BECAUSE IM NOT I LOVE HIM TO DEATH I JUST HAVE SO MUCH STRESS AND HE DOES TO AND US GOING THROUGH SO MUCH IS CAUSING ARGUEMENTS
I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO TO MAKE THIS RELATIONSHIP BETTER AND OUR MINDS AT EASE, CAN U PLEASE HELP ME
It definitely sounds like you have many reasons to be stressed! However, you'll find that there is always stress in life of one form or another - and undoubtedly once the child is actually born there will be another huge set of stresses to deal with. Raising a child is NOT easy. Sometimes they're cute and cuddly. And sometimes they are screaming banshees.
It is really important for you guys to learn how to deal with this stress in a healthy way. Otherwise it will simply tear you apart. Make this an active goal of your immediate life. Most doctors have stress clinics now, talk to your doctor or therapist about going to one. Learn techniques for handling stress and face it TOGETHER. Really, it's important you do this now, before the baby comes. You won't have ANY time afterwards, and you don't want the relationship to fall completely apart because you never took the time to learn some simple techniques.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com