He`has two kids and girlfriend he say's he doesn't love.Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I have a really good friend that I work with that has been trying to get me to be his girlfriend for about 6 months now. And I really like him too. Itís just that recently I found out that he has a girlfriend and two kids! And that heís in the army, and will be going off to Iraq in a few months. He sayís that he not in love with his girlfriend and that heís only with her because she has his kids. He doesnít even know where she lives right now. But when I asked him to come to the moves with me, he said that we had to keep it on the down low because his girl might see us. A few days ago we made out, and now I really regret it, because although he says that he doesnít feel bad about cheating on his girlfriend, I do. Iím really confused right now because this is like one of my first serious relationships. I know that there's no real chances that this could turn into something good. I just want to know, should I tell him that this isnít going to work out softly, so i won't hurt his feelings. Or Iím just an affair heís having just to past the time and it doesnít even matter?
It seems to me that he is looking for someone to communicate with while he is in Iraq. While it is understandable for him to have a romantic link to the States you have to consider whether you are willing to make that sacrifice... and you don't have very strong feelings for him.
Then there is the girlfriend and the children. You probably don't want to increase the split between them and this guy. My advice is to let them alone and hope that some way they get back together.
Good luck! George
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