I'm Staying Over, Is Something There?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My old friend from middle school recently broke up with a controlling boyfriend she had for about a year. It's not over yet because he attacked her at a bar one night, now there is legalities involved.
But, we have been spending time together, going out, just us and usually she wants me to spend the night, and i do, but nothing happens. we do the cuddling thing and i do get a little touchy-feely, but do not kiss her. it doesn't seem to bother her but i don't know if she wants to take that step or not? it doesn't bother me if not but i really enjoy her time, and feel comfortable with her, so i would like to go further with her.
I know she has her hands full right now, but it seems as if it's there but i'm just not sure? what do you think? Is there something there?
Obviously something is there if she's asking you to stay in her home overnight!! Women don't usually do that for strangers or for people they dislike.
I would be a great friend for her, being a sounding board and a listening ear while she goes through this and the rebound. You don't want to get associated in her mind with the whole mess she is getting away from, because then when she clears herself of the mess she will want you gone too since you were part of that. Instead, be the solid, reliable friend she can depend on - so when she's ready to move forward, she will turn to you.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com