Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Ok, so me and the ex have been broken up for about 2 months now.. after dating for 2 years. It's gettin easier day by day but I still miss him and feel like I would do anything to have him back again. He was my best friend. I haven't seen him since the breakup but we talk thru text and sometimes phone every once in a while. I am usually the one to text or give him a call first, so I don't know what that says about the situation. When I do call him tho, I keep it short and I usually am the one to say I have to go.. but lately he's been texting first. He recently got into an accident and he text me right away afterwards and just said he thought I should know. Then the other night he just out of the blue texts and asks if I want some things I have at his house still. We've been broken up for 2 months now, why would he just now be asking? My friends think it was just an excuse to talk, but I dont know. So I just called him instead of texting and I kept the call to about 10 min. and said I had to go. He seemed kind of surprised, like he expected me to talk longer since I always wanted to. Then a few minutes after we got off the phone, he texts me and asks if he can get all his stuff back that I still have and it sounded kind of mean! Again, why would he ask after we havent been together for a while now? The thing is I am kind of seeing someone else right now, but I don't know if he knows yet or not. But it's just not the same, cuz I really miss him a lot. We had a pretty awesome relationship until we started fightin alot because he claimed I was becoming too "clingy" and he felt like our relationship was "tied down" so we began fighting alot and thats pretty much what pushed him away. I'm tryin to prove to him that I know what I did wrong by just acting like we did before we started dating.. just friends. But it's so hard! When is it ok to mention to him about tryin again without making him upset or pushin him away even more? I just don't know what to do! I can see eachother being together again sometime down the road, but I just dont know if he feels the same! I am scared to mention anything about it too soon and not havin him have the same feelings or outlook on the situaiton! Awww I'm confused!
Be sure that you are telling him that you miss him or he may be getting the idea that you have lost interest in him.
Or, you could say you miss the fun times you had with him.
Might as well start him thinking too.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com