Where do I go from here
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Ok here is the situation.My fiancee and Iare actually having a really wonderful time together.We are making all these great plans about our lives and I dont doubt that he is committed to our relationship.
The problem is that he has a habit of flirting around and this often leads to say relationships.We all agree affairs can be emotional not only physical.i have noticed that often he uses the relationships to get what he wants at that particular time which is maybe clinch a deal, get something done etc.Most of these affairs happen to be with workmates.i have come toa conclusion that he is not capable of having a stable platonic relationship with a gal.In the past i hav confronted him about these actions- having women looking for him at odd hours, one even prepositioned him for a quickie on text and since we share phones we changes sim cards and there i found the text.
Nway ive just been hard hit to be told that he has actually shared a bed with two ladies in past 2 years-One has been married .we have dated for four years.The thing is i am poor at confrontation and i dont kno how to ask him about this.I dont even know if i want to ask him.But i need to know the truth.I know he flirting around with his colleague and its becoming intense and i think ive been stupid not to do anything about it.But i guess am tired of it all.
We are planning to get married next month and i don want to go ahead with all these things in my head.I mean the next thing he will be having an affair with our babysitter!
What doi do? Do i confront him? do i walk away....this is a habit...and i cant stand it.
You two need to get to a professional counselor as soon as possible.
Do it today or tomorrow. Keep in mind that it may just be pre-wedding jitters that is bothering you. A trained professional can help you figure this out and give you advice on whether to go ahead with the wedding given how you feel.
When you call the counselor, tell him/her that it is urgent because of the impending wedding. Plan on going three times a week to get to the bottom of this.
Do it now! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com