Aftermath : Part 2
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
Well contact has been made. However, I am even more confused.
1. Sunday, Fathers Day, when I got home from my parents house I was walking out to the front of the house to get some stuff out of the truck the EX magically appeared onto her front porch. There was no sign of the new BF.
2. Tuesday night I recieved an email from her. But I didnt read it until Thursday.
"I probably shouldn't be doing this but my mom told me that you got
baptized...I just wanted to say congratulations and that I think that it
is wonderful...I think it's beautiful. AND...once again God shows how
wonderful and awesome he is :)"
I responded and kept it simple.
3. Thursday afternoon she made herself very visible outdoors. I went outside onto the front porch to have a cig and she waved hello to me.
4. Thursday evening I went for my daily bike ride and then came home and immediately went for my daily walk.
As I am walking down the street she pulls up in her car and rolls down the window. She then says, "Oh, your walking." She then says " You look good, Ooh I like your hair-style. Wow! you really good!" I said thanks and told her I was in hurry and then continued to finish my exercise.
Why confused? Well, she wanted no contact. Now I get that email and then she stops me to talk to me and compliments me. She hasnt complimented me like that since we first started dating.I almost want to say she was aroused. Anyone who knows me has seen that I look and appear much healthier and fit. Anyways, she drives off to her BF's house and stays the night. I know this cuz she lives across the street. Mild form of stalking I suppose. But how can I not notice. : /
I am so confused about these actions of hers. I am gonna continue doing what I do for the time being. I am really just ready to fully move on or have it work out. Which ever comes first. I spend entirely way to much time thinking about this or how she might really feel.
I've decided to not initiate any contact whatsoever. I feel as though she is playing cat and mouse with me.
I just feel as though I should take this all as face value until I seem some reciprication of some of the effort I have put into this disaster.
I hope I am not posting too much on this site.
I just need someone to talk to that has an unbiased opinion.
I hope all is well with you George!
You are not posting too much.
Your plan to not initiate contact is probably best. Just don't alienate her by being abrupt when she initiates contact. Make sure you smile and ask her how she is doing.
I'm not sure she is playing cat and mouse with you. More likely she is sincerely pleased to see the improvements you have made in your life. It is nice that she is get closer to you, even if it is only a little bit.
Don't think of what has happened as a disaster, it will cloud your mind toward the whole relationship.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com