I am cheating on my boyfriend, who is the father of my child, with a married man and I love them both!
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am living with my boyfriend of almost 4 years, have a 2 year old son with him. I thought he was the love of my life and my very best friend. He has borrowed a ton of money from me and practically drained me. He is a good person and money doesn't matter too much to me. Anyway, I found myself falling in love with someone else, who is MARRIED and he says he loves me but has children he doesn't want to leave without their dad. He is a successful business man and can do anything, unlike my boyfriend who doesn't seem to know how to do anything. Do I tell my boyfriend I cheated, leave him...stay with him... I know the married man has got to go and I am having a little trouble with that also. I am very confused and need help desperately! I have already been through one divorce with a child (who is now 10 years old) and I don't want to deal with two ex's taking time away from me with my kids. I also don't want to end up in bankruptcy and a life of lies if I stay with my current boyfriend.
I am sorry you are in this situation.
You really need advice from a professional licensed counselor. You need someone to talk face-to-face with.
My advice, which is based on limited information, is that you get rid of the married man, stay with your husband, and work very hard on your financial problems. Don't let him bankrupt you because it will cause very bad affects on both you and your children. Surely he can see that.
Best of luck to you! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com