i got drunk and kissed his best friend
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
OK so me and my bf had been going out for about a month. It was great, but he had to move away. We didnt really come to terms as to whether we would still be together or not before he left. So for the first couple of days we talked on the phone a total of 30 mins each day. Then he just stopped calling. And I was mad that he didnt call so I didnt call him either. One week later I called twice and he didn't pick up. The next week I decided to call and leave a message saying that I was breaking up with him, and to call me back if he had anything to say to that. Three days later he called back, but I didn't understand what he was saying because I was in a car at that time, so I said I would call him when I got home. He said not to call him and that he would call me later. He didnt call me...and about a week later he sent me an email saying that he might come back to live here and that he missed me very much. I didnt answer and then he called me saying that he missed me, etc.. and i was like "ok..i dont know if i miss you, cuz you know, it's been a whole month without you even bothering to pick up your phone" he apologized and said he "had been busy". Then he said he still loved me. I didnt answer. So he said he would call me later... I called him the next day to try to come to terms with our relationship and see if we were even still together. So he picks up and he's at a fair, so I'm like "ok, just call me when u get home or something cuz I'm just bored here." (note that i didnt even say what i was calling for) So he never called back. Then two days later his best friend, who happens to be a great guy and is also my friend and used to fill me in on what to do with my bf guy, comes over to my friend's house and we all get drunk. When I drink I get very..."loving". So I "confessed my love" to the guy (note that such love doesnt really exist in my sober world) and hugged him all night. I also remember kissing him, and getting mad cuz he wouldnt kiss me back. I understand why he wouldn't, though. And well while I was drunk I also called my bf/ex bf guy at around 5 am and left a message cussing him out. So he, of course, got mad and called me back. (I never cuss, especially in front of guys) By this time I wasnt drunk anymore so I apologized and we made up. I also told him everything that I had clogged up inside about feeling neglected and stuff. And he apologized and said he loved me and that he would try his best to come back here so we could be together. Well...now the guilt is killing me because he doesn't know that I kissed that guy, and I dont want the guy to feel guilty and then end up telling him before I do. I dont really know if I cheated on him or not because I dont know if we were together or not. Is a kiss considered cheating, or is it just the whole idea that I would even try to do that, especially with his best friend? Should I wait to see if he moves back, and then tell him in person? I dont want to lose him..especially because the other guy means nothing to me. But I dont know how he would react if he found out..because I KNOW I would hate it if he did that to me.. So should I tell him? If so, how?
Don't tell him.
If he finds out and asks you about it tell him it was meaningless and you are sorry you did it.
This is the truth of the matter and he should understand.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com