Long time friend
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have written to you guys way more then once, so thanks but on to my question.
Okay so I have had this friend for a long time and was NEVER attracted to him at all but always had a lot of respect for him and he always made me laugh he was a great friend to me. At the end of April on a drunken night we woke up next to each other I was so surprised and freaked out but at the same time it felt good. Like right. The next day he spent the whole day with me and at this point I was still just friends. I thought it was just a one time thing and we talked about how we never wanted to lose our friendship and wrote it of us a drunken night. Well the next weekend we had all had a trip to AC planned we ended up hooking up again. After that we started hanging out more and more. On Mother's Day he came to my house for a BBQ my mom was having meet my whole family cooked for us and spent the whole night with me. After that we were together 3-4 nights a week hanging out having fun I was talking to him through text message on the daily and started developing feelings for him. We would always have the "talk" that neither one of us was ready to commit and it is summer time and all that but then we can resist each other when we are together. Things started to fade down after a week or so and he stopped calling as much but we were still spending time together all of our friends are friends it is pretty much impossible not to see him plus his cousin is my best friend and roommate SOOOO then this is where the drama on folds we both admit to being terrified of commitment and we both party A LOT... but It is obvious to everyone that there has to be feelings there like that thing in movies you think does not exist well I have a new out look on that now. I think that is how I feel about him like it is crazy how I feel when I am with him or when he calls me like a get butterflies! anyway to the point... On Sunday we were together and he was pretty much drunk to there is no end. And he said some pretty hurtful things to me including but not limited to You like me way more then I like you. And I never lead on to that but it might be true I only called him as often as he called me. But I was really upset I wouldn't talk to him. He came to my house to pick something up the next day my roommate gave it to him and he tried to come talk to me but she wouldn't let him told him he was in the dog house. So he let me be for a day and then sent me a text and said "so aside from me being a complete asshole.. can you forgive me babe. I do apologize" I didn't answer him until later that night but I told him a that a text message is no way to get someone to forgive you.. you know how to get a hold of me. So he called and apologized for everything and he was serious I have known him for a long time so I do know when he is BS. He asked what he could do to make it up to me. I told him I wasn't sure. So he offered a steak dinner (my fav) and I told him I would think about it. So the next day I told him I would take him up on it.. so he said we could go to my fav restaurant and would Thursday be okay (tomorrow) so we have what I would like to think is are first official date tomorrow. Or is it just him trying to be the good friend that he is cause he messed up? I also I am trying to figure out if he likes me or the sex (sorry if that was to forward) or if he just wants to be friends? I know this is long but I have never felt this way about anyone and even my friends and family have notice how into him I am... but I do not let that on around him! PLEASE HELP WITH THIS AND I WILL NEVER WRITE AGAIN!!!! THANKS!!!!
It's time you let him know the truth about how you feel for him.
You have a long history and he will understand. Holding back will just complicate things and maybe mess things up.
It's obvious that he cares for you and wants to be closer to you.
Take advantage of the moment and build on that spark.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com