Issues with intimacy?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little over 4 months now. It's going pretty well, we have fun, we laugh, etc, but we have a problem getting intimate.
Mostly after a date ( movie, or dinner, ...), we go to her or mine place to talk and watch some tv. We sit on the couch, I put my arm around her and she cuddles up to me. I start kissing her shoulder and neck, but she just sits there, eyes glued to the screen or she just continues talking. She doesn't ever respond to anything.
During our relationship we have really kissed 2 or 3 times, besides kisses hello and goodbye. I think she has issues with intimacy and I want to talk to her about it, but I don't know how to bring it up. Or if I even should. Is she just not ready, am I being to impatient? I don't want to come across as some horny bastard.
The problem is that you don't have a good place to be alone.
Try to go on a picnic or walk in the woods and take advantage of your time to become more intimate. After four months it is not unreasonable to have some intimacy so don't worry about that.
If she still is unresponsive, it would be ok to bring the subject up and ask her her opinion. She is thinking about this too.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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