What should I do?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Where to begin. Well there is this girl I used to work with, who quit about two months ago, that I have a big crush on. We kept in touch after she quit by talking on the phone and one night it came out that she had a crush on me too and when I asked her she said she wanted to date me. I told her I wanted to date her too. This was a good four weeks ago and we still havn't gone out on a date. Everytime I come up with a day for us to go out she has something to do. Then a couple weeks ago she told me that this guy friend of hers recently told her he wanted to date her too and she was confused about what to do. So I told her we should go out once and see what happens. Still, she always had plans. I told her it seemed like she didn't want to see me and she said that that wasn't it, she just always gets nervous about starting a new relationship. We have kept talking though and three nights ago we talked about sex. She wanted to know if we dated if I would expect it out of her. I said know and we both feel the same way about it, that we would both have to have strong feelings for each other for that to happen. So I thought we were both on the same page and things were heading in the right direction, but I havn't talked to her in three days. I've probably called her a dozen times in the last three days and she isn't answering. Sometimes her mom takes her phone away as punishment so that might be it, but I am just wondering what my next move should be. I can't really get a hold of her and I want to talk to her. Remember that she is nervous about starting a relationship, so is there anything I can do to make her not nervous. She said she is nervous about getting hurt and getting attached and/or clingy to a boyfriend. Any advice would be appreciated.
You should stop calling her.
Either she is avoiding you or she doesn't have access to her phone. In any case you should stop calling.
Wait two weeks before calling again and perhaps she will call in the meantime.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com