can't choose between two guys

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i was dating this guy for about 2 years and my father had suddenly passed away. i wanted to be left alone so i pushed my boyfriend away. At the time i felt that it was his fault i did this. I stayed away from him for a long time. its 5 years later, i am engaged to another great guy. I have been with him for 4 years- but for the past year i have been talking to my ex and seeing him on the side. i realized now that he did nothing wrong and just tried to be there for me and i pushed him away. i love both guys and they are completely different. my ex told me he could never stop loving me and looks at me like i am his world. i like the way they both make me feel. I have tried the "pro and Cons" list, talking to many people- and still no real help. i loose sleep over trying to decide if i should marry this guy or do i have a deeper connection with my ex. i have held off making plans for awhile now- i need serious help. i would always be thinking of who im not with. what do i do? how could i just end it again with someone for no reason? Advice
Sorry you are in this situation.

I imagine your ex knows the whole story, but that your BF doesn't.

Tell your BF what is going on and ask for his advice. Don't be surprised if he dumps you.

Inevitably one of them is going to get hurt and you will feel bad about it too.

Sorry for the lack of good advice, but this is a tough one. Maybe by being honest with everyone you could break the ice jam.

Good luck! George

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