An Obnoxious Friend of my BF
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
my boyfriend has a friend at work whom I cannot stand!!! Every time my b/f calls me on a break or is just getting off of work and his friend is around, he yells out stupid stuff to piss me off. HE DOESN'T EVEN KNOW ME!!!
I met him once at summerfest,and before that I made it a purpose to get to know him (since he IS my loves friend and my man knows all of my friends) and he ditched me and my b/f to go to the fralicks. I think I did my part, so now it's HIS turn.
He will say stuff like,"get that stripper off your lap bob (will say my b/f is bob)" or "quit grabbing that girls tits bob, or" which girlfriend r u talking to now?"
I know my man wont stray, but it pisses me off. Bob tells him to quit it, but he dont. AND, HE will try to invite bob over to drink when bob lives a half hour away. Never did he want me to come with. AND, he will call girls over to "hang out" and bob will leave and he don't think it's funny either. Bobs other friends mess around too, but I know and like them alot. I don't know what to do. The only time he sees him is at work now, but he's making me and bob fight. please help!!!
Some people are simply immature and think it's funny to hurt other people. It's because they can't imagine ever being in love like that - so they have to put it down when they see it elsewhere to convince themselves "I'm not missing anything - see how easy it is to make them fight!" It's like a power thing. He sees your great relationship, he feels jealous, so POOF with a snap of his fingers he can make your relationship less great. He's not jealous any more.
Think of him like a 2 year old kid. You're not going to be able to reason with him. Reacting to his teasing is just going to give him the very satisfaction he's looking for. That's the whole reason he's saying it!! So ignore him. Any time he says that, build a vivid mental image of him sitting there in diapers with a pacifier in his mouth, throwing a tantrum because he is all alone. Because that is exactly what he's doing.
Don't let this guy come betwene you and Bob. He's just an annoyance. Your relationship is about you and Bob and nothing else.
-- from Jenn
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