My G/F gets so hurt that I cant be passionate 24/7Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I am having an extremely difficult problem. I have been dating my girlfriend for over 7 months and I Love Her dearly...After 4 months she was forced to move in with me b/c she lost her job. Now its a tight squeeze since I only have a studio however we make it work. As much as I do miss some privacy I would rather have her here than her have to move back home 300 miles away. So on to my problem. She and I are very affectionate and enjoy a great physical relationship. I pay lots of attention to her and always give her plenty of hugs and kisses daily. However she wants more kissing than I do and she gets all upset when I am not in the mood to reciprocate. What I mean exactly is she wants intimate passionate kissing all the time and I am not always in the mood for it. She always wants to make out and snuggle and when I am not in the mood she gets upset and makes comments like "its not like it used to be and I miss it" This is NOT after sex. After sex I do all those things..She will start to cry sometimes. I dont know what to tell her. I love giving her bunches of regular kisses all over her cheeks, neck and lips, and hug her but the making out is not always there for me ! She will initiate it and if I dont want to I get grief.
I know how things cool down after awhile and you dont jump each others bones every 5 min but I still show her a TON of affection. However its not enough. I curl up every night with her when we sleep etc etc ..What do I do ? I am sick of her making me feel bad for not wanting to suck face everyday and curl up with her when I am not in the mood to do it..I give her plenty and I am about to go nuts...
If she is still not working, perhaps she has more energy that you do.
But, odds are that she was about the same when she had a job.
It sounds as if you are giving her plenty of attention and affection.
She will have to get used to your feelings or your relationship is likely to fail. Have a long gentle talk with her.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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