Why the cold shoulder?Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
In about October, a guy I have known for 5 years (We'll call him "Mark") asked me out. I had no idea that he was interested in me, but he went to Italy for two weeks and returned with a beautiful necklace, a love confession, and a request to be his girlfriend. At the time I had a large interest in someone else (Let's call him "Sean"). I was also attracted to Mark, though, so I said yes.
Two days later I began to feel guilty- I was more in love with Sean than my own boyfriend! I talked to Mark and let him know that it wouldn't work. I didn't want to hurt him when he found out that I loved Sean.
I have since discovered that Sean and I don't work- at all. He's not the person I thought he was initially, but Mark has been ever wonderful. Ever since late April I have been thinking about Mark more and more- and not just the "rebound" type thing (Sean and I never officially dated anyway.)
The downside is that Mark isn't the same as he once was. I have a theory, though. I believe that perhaps Mark feels like his ego was bruised when I broke up with him, although I let him down gently. I'm guessing that this is why he seems so resentful of me- he's upset that I broke up with him so long ago, even though it was the right thing to do at the time. I regret losing him, and want him back. How do I ask for his forgiveness regarding my stupid choices? Is there any way I can ask for a second chance without seeming "needy" or freaking him out?
Thanks in advance!
Just tell him plain and simple what you wrote me above.
It is a perfectly sensible and normal story and it may take him a while to accept it but my guess is that he will eventually come around.
Ask him out and explain it to him.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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