Met him, still dig him but... returns!
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Right seeing as i left out a few vitals in my last question i'm clarifying things in this one.
The guy i met (that i am still very much fond of) and i did infact send several pictures to eachother before meeting. i failed to mention that i was quite taken aback when seeing him cos he quite different to the pictures. Being not quite as attractive as i'd anticipated it was quite painful but i put all superfical aspects aside that day. i had spoken to him many times on the phone before meeting and still do so i know exactly what kind of person he is. and i like that person a lot. im romantically interested in him but i don't feel physically attracted. is it possible that the attraction will come later or am i doing this the wrong way around? Usually its attraction first and the rest follows... in this situation its been the-rest-follows first seeing that we got to know eachother online. he truly adores me and i don't want to lose him because he wasn't sexually appealing enough for me! please help again.
Usually lust precedes love, but not always.
Your main problem is that overcoming the attraction problem is usually accomplished by frequest physical contact. You don't have that and so it will be much more difficult for you to build up an attraction backwards so to speak.
It could go either way. You seem happy enough the way things are so I'd suggest just letting things ride.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com