I want him back but I'm not sure if I'm doing it right
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My bf and I were together for 7.5mths and he has just broken up with me for close to 3 weeks. I have a problem with anger management and I don't really plan for my future. He has tried to help and encourage me to do something about myself, but I always end up brushing it off. When he broke up with me, he said that it had came upon him that it was beyond his capacity to help when I don't want to help myself and that he has other priorities in life to focus on now. He has his career and studies to focus on and really won't be fair to me even if he hangs on. I told him I was sorry and that I'm willing to change and go through all this with him, but he said his mind is made up and that he believed that I will change for the better. Whatever he's doing now it's for the better of us. He said I'll always be someone special to him and he knows that I love him more than anyone else. Right now his mind is made up, but the future he can't tell but would rather we think that we're not going to be together and let nature takes its course. We're still in contact but it is always me contacting him than the other way round, and the conversation is always short. I'm working on improving myself everyday and telling myself that I will let him see what I've become, a better person. But I just don't know if I should just leave him to be, or continue to keep in contact because if I do, I have mixed emotions, but if I don't, I'll think that I missed out on alot of things in his life. Not to forget I don't know how he'll be able to see the change in me and if he's still interested to see that in me. Lots of doubts that's holding me back everyday, and I'm just battling it within myself... Can you tell me if what I'm doing is right?
You seem to be doing just the right thing.
Working on self-improvement is the most important trait that your ex will be looking for. Get together with him once in a while and when you talk with him be sure to drop hints about how you managed an angry situation well and also tell him what you have done for improving yourself.
From the way you describe the breaking up, he is open to change if he sees it in you. And you've only been broken up for almost three weeks.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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Get along with him