I Worry about her Being in College
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
my girlfriend and i have been together for 3 years and she is older than me. I am still in high school and this year will be her first year of college. She is very strong-minded and i love her very much.
We have had the discussion about her going off to college several times and she always tells me that i have nothing to worry about but i still do. We are already in a long distance relationship now but i love her very much but now not only will it be long distance but she will be in college. What should i do about the whole situation?
There are some things in life you can change, and there are some things you can't change. She's going to college. That's just a fact of life. So you have to TRUST her. If you keep harassing her and hounding her about how this is going to ruin the relationship - then it will. But it will be your jealousy that ruins it, your repeated showing of your lack of faith and trust in her. All relationships are based on faith and trust and honesty. If you spend all your time hammering into her that you can't trust her or believe in her, she's going to go find someone that can.
I have lots of pages on jealousy on line including a full course on working to end it -
I would really work through that and simply believe. If it was meant to be, it will work out. But you must believe in her and in her love. And you must work strongly to maintain that communication.
-- from Jenn
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