bestfriend turned boyfriend!
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
well here's the deal. i know this guy for say four yrs or so n neva really liked him as a boyfriend material! v ver very good frnds n thats the way i wanted it. i always had an idea that the guy was flipped on me but thought of me as something he cant get and thats the way i wanted it to stay coz he was so not my type. recently, as in last yr, having ben through two very dirty breakups i was feelin really lonely n he was aroun n available. knowin that he had feelings for me i started to lead him on n drop hints here n dere. finally he broke down n told me that he loved me n wanted to be wid me. bein all lonely n stuff i reciprocated the feelings.
this was 2 months ago. he came to my place couple ov times during the 2 months. v went out only once or so but started talkin on fone daily.
he has fallen head over heels. but i dont feel the same way. infact i'v already gotten bored by him n his daily calls hav started to bug me. his overtly carin attitude is gettin on my nerves. i even cudn't bring myself to kiss him. I PULLED AWAY!
plus i'm feelin he's only aroun for romance n brings up a solid excuse for not being aroun in need. or so i feel. (maybe i'm jus takin out bad things in him to hide my guilt i aint sure)
i NEED to break up wid him.
but hez a gr8 frnd. i dun wanna hurt him n dun wanna let go of the frnd ship.
wat shud i do?
plz plz reply soon!
now i'm feelin guilty bout havin used him!
Be honest with him but not too honest.
Tell him that you thought you were attracted to him and wanted to see what would develop between you two. But then you discovered that it just wasn't going to work out and even though you tried you think that you should split up.
Be sure to emphasize that you want to continue to be his good friend because that is what you like most about him.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com