does she really care?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
i met this girl on msn about 2 years ago, who lives like 16 hours away by car. we always had crazy conversations and could talk for longer than i've ever talked to anyone else. she's had a boyfriend for over a year now and says him and i are exactly alike. Two months ago we both found out we had a thing for eachother. We both started to feel like this since the end of last summer. right now, she's told me that if i lived there EVERYTHING would have been different and she probably would never had dated her current boyfriend. we seem to be getting even more serious inspite of the distance, and the fact that i have a girlfriend now too. we both have huge jealousy problems with one another's boy/girlfriend, and sometimes say hurtful things. But then all of a sudden sometimes i feel like she's completely forgotten about me, how could i know for sure if she really honestly means what she tells me, cares, and would want me more than almost anyone else? Is there something i can say to bring it out of her? or say something to make her temporarily extremely jealous so i know? she means so much to me, maybe even more than my girlfriend, and i need to make sure she feels the same way, because i feel heartbroken alot, and there's no way to meet her yet, we have no way of getting to eachother for a while at least.
You two are playing games and everybody is going to get hurt.
Either dump your "real" BF and GF or stop the LDR. The jealousy is not productive... you made your bed and you have to lie in it.
So, make up your minds. Do you want to continue your relationship or do you want to have nearby BF GF? You can't play it both ways.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com