Do these two guys really like me?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I am 16. I kind of have a bad reputation in my high school becuse my ex-bf spread rumor around the school that i slept with him.There are these two guys that ( by the way they are both friends) that I really like in my class they both said I was cute.im pretty sure heard the rumors asked me if they were true I told 'max"them the truth that i did becuse i didnt want to lie (it was only that one guy that i slept with). "jake" announced to the class that he wanted to go out with me and told my friends that he wanted to go out with me. I told my friends I would say yes. But, today he asked me if I wanted to hang out today after school I said yah sure but then he asked me if I wanted to play in the bedroom. I said no he said why I said because I am not that kind of person. "max" is nice to me but kind of has a bad reputation but he'd mad if like if another guy touched me hed say "don't touch my girl" and hed defend me but he said that he didnt want a girlfriend but to be "friends with benifits" .My question is that do you think that these guys would really like me for me as in my personality (since I told them that I am not that kind of person)? Should I go out with the "jake" even though he said that because he could have been joking? How could I make them like me for my personality and not just the way I look? Do they honestly like me or do they just want to have sex? Should i still talk to them?
It sounds like they are mostly interested in sex.
If you want to hang out with either of them, you will have to make it clear that, like you said, "you are not that kind of girl."
You can't stop boys from liking the way you look, but when you deal with them always be on the lookout for their comments on your personality. They should admire you for that too.
Talk to them just enough to figure where they are coming from and make your final decision based on that. They both already have one strike against them.
Good luck! George
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