It's been 7 years and I can't stop thinking about him!Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
It's been 7 years since I've talked to my first love, and even though it's been that long. I wonder if I ever got over him. I have been thinking about him alot lately as if we never left each other. I thought when I went off to college and he went to the Air Force we were never going to see each other again after high school. But after 1 year of college he contacted me while I was on break to see me even though he broke it off with me before we parted ways. I was so surprised, but I had to eventually go back to school and he the AirForce.
A little time went by(maybe a year and a half) and I contacted his mother to get his address , and I wrote him. He responded to my letter and called me and we kept in touch again for about another year and a half even though we were long distance.
Last time we actually talked was March 2000 and it wasn't on a good note. Throughout the next 7 years I would periodically think about him, but we didn't keep in touch for some reason. All of a sudden, about 2 or 3 weeks ago until now I think about him all the time as if we were in love for the first time. I fantasize about him and wonder if deep down inside we were meant to be. I don't know why I'm having these feelings about him again but I find myself crying over him still and not being able to sleep or eat that much.
I wouldn't mind being in a relationship with him again, but just not deal with some of the hurt and heartache he put me through. I wonder what all this means what I'm experiencing right now and I really wish I knew. I know 7 years is a long time ago, but then I also think of the movie "the Notebook", and the main couple spent 7 years apart and then got back together because they never fell out of love with each other, so maybe there's hope for me.
I'm totally confused and don't know what to do? Anyone please tell me your thoughts on the matter. Part of me feels like I'll never get over him. What to do?
After seven years, who knows... he may be married with three kids. So you need to get some information.
Call his mother and ask how he is doing. She is sure to let you know whether he is free or not.
If he is not free then forget him. After all it's only been two or three weeks that you have been having these feelings and it may be a passing thing.
If he is free then contact him and see what happens.
Good luck! George
p.s. if your condition persists by all means seek professional counselling.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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