She Says She Wants to Be Friends
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Hello again i took your advice and i found a girl We spent had to dates together, Well i didn't know if they were dates. After talking to her for a while (3weeks) i told her how i felt, but things didn't go to plan her reply was "I realy like you but not more than a friend. I was crushed so when i got home i started thinking about what i'd done wroung. When i woke up i started thinking and i realised its not so bad i can still be her friend and mabe shell change her mind later on shes only 14 and im 15 so there is time but i don't know what say to her that i still whant to be her friend so what should i say..? help me i rrealy like this Girl as a frien and as a girlfriend. But things are bad cause one of her family members just died like a couple of weeks ago. I wnt to comfort her but i cant help my fellings to get in the way...?
If she just had a death in the family, this is a really bad time to be trying to get her into a new relationship. She's got a lot on her mind and what she really needs is a good friend. It sounds like she's happy for you to be a friend, so be that! Close friendship is the single most important thing in any relationship. Build up that connection between you two - show her that she can trust in you, she can rely on you, that you're always there when she needs you.
When she feels she's ready to have something more in her life, then there you will be!
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com