Advice for my situation?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hi. I broke up with my boyfriend about 5 months ago after a year and a half and really want to know how to get him back! I love him so much, and although I know I don't NEED him to be happy, I really want him back as my boyfriend.
At the end of our relationship things were really bad - we were fighting constantly and had been living together with his family for a few months. I turned into a nagging, clingy, needy girlfriend... everything that one doesn't want to be! When we broke up my ex said he didn't know if he loved me any more or wasn't attracted to me like that.
We decided to stay friends but that was a really rocky road. One night he got a text msg from a girl who ended up being a complete psycho telling him I died in a car accident. After he couldn't contact me for 2 days he really believed it, and after he found out it wasn't true, his whole attitude changed towards me.
Recently we've been talking every few days and hanging out maybe once a week - although I will admit its me calling him. He took me out to my birthday and was the perfect gentleman - even remembering to send me a text msg at 3 mins past midnight. I can, for the first time in a while, see that he really cares for me. He's not showing whether he loves me, although deep down I believe he still does.
EXCEPT the other day he sent me an email from NY letting me know he couldn't respond to my text but then signed off with - cya later skater... couldn you get more plutonic/friends only???
I'm not 100% sure but I also think he may have been hooking up with this girl he knows in NYC.
I thought we were possibly on the track to sorting things out...
Anyway - please help!! I really love him and want him back!!
You are in a very confusing situation.
He seems to care about you but just a little too little.
Ideally, you would have a long talk and get to the bottom of this, but he may not even know how he feels about you.
You should continue seeing him and see how things progress. But don't get your hopes up too high because he may flake out on you.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com