how do i approach her?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
it's kinda lenghty....sorry...
hi, i've written before about what should i do with my ex since she was pregnant (thanks for the advice).....anyways well ever since that time, my ex went to the doctor and told her she was 8 weeks pregnant, and she and i had sex 6 weeks ago, so basically im not the daddy right?! well it turns out that there might be a chance of the doctor being wrong, i mean its not for sure what he said, since is only an estimation and the only way is DNA test, and besides, everyone doubts that since she went by herself. she also confessed to her brother to have doubts about who could be the daddy (her current bf or me). well i've tried to talk to her, and every time i call her she gives me an attitude, she says she doesnt want to talk to me ever again and not to interfere with her life. to me is evident that she is hiding something from me that i should know, she gives hint of that, either the paternity or that she still has feelings for me, and i kinda understand since she doesnt wanna sound like a b**ch cuz she cheated on her bf. either way im only caring abt the baby, not what could happen between us. so my question is: how do i approach her when i call her? i wanna talk to her and settle things, but she's just acting like she doesnt want to talk to me again. what do i do so she would get to talk to me? i really wanna know what's been going on and what she could be hiding from me.
thanks for reading this.....
Get a lawyer to write her a letter.
The lawyer will know what to say and how to say it. Basically that you are concerned whether the baby is your's (and you should be because of child support payments.)
The lawyer might suggest to this girl that it would be in her best interests to work closely with you to determine the paternity.
This should catch her attention and allow you to talk to her again.
Good luck! George
p.s. lawyers are great in helping you get what you need, and the feel for writing a letter shouldn't be a lot.
-- from George
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