Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My boyfriend and I (ages both 19) planned a trip to mexico that is coming up in a few weeks. We are not together anymore but the tickets are non refundable and we still want to go very badly. We have been apart for about 3 months but we still get along very well. I am over him but I don't think he is not over me. We are both virgins and we had planned on mexico being our first time together. I would still be fine with that because I am so comfortable with myself and the situation. However, I am talking to someone now but I don't know exactly where it is going... he moves incredibly slow and it may be MONTHS before we get anywhere together! I want to go ahead and have sex with my ex on the trip because I think it will be amazing location and experience and we still love each other, we just don't have the same priorities... except on this one subject. How do you think the feelings of these guys will be effected if this does happen? (Hoping that my new friend doesn't find out) I want to, but I am not sure if I would be doing the right thing... Any advice at all would help! Thanks
Do your best to figure this out before going to Mexico because it may interfere with the fun you are planning if things aren't settled.
Since the guy you are talking to is not an official boyfriend yet, you don't need to worry about him. He is going to have questions about the whole trip anyway. And, perhaps he has already asked and you probably told him it was platonic. It's none of his business at this point. But if your relationship strengthens he will resent the whole thing and especially if he finds out.
Your ex will probably become more enchanted with you during this experience so expect him to be more drawn to you after the trip. If he brings up the subject in Mexico try to convince him it would be better to discuss it after the vacation to avoid misunderstandings.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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