Making Progress- Final Act
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
Well, we have had a total disaster.
Sunday was phenomonal. I attended church and went home.
My ex-girlfriend calls me and asks if I was there. I told her that I was and then told her that they played a song that made me think of her. She was so excited to hear that I remember that song she liked so much! She then called me back a few minutes later. Then she called me while shopping at the mall. And then again while shopping at the mall. Woohoo!!!! ----> apparently not :(
Lastnite I decided to tell her that I was sorry for the times in our relationship that I was unloving. I said " I was wrong. Im sorry. Please Forgive me." Her response was. " oh I am so over that. And I dont think that its a good idea that we keep in touch anymore." Then she said she would call back and did'nt. This morning I emailed her
telling her that I didnt want to cause any frustration for her and that I was hurt that she didnt call me back. She calls me immediatley to tell me she feel asleep. So we continue to talk about why we shouldnt talk and then I decided to confess that I had been taking a marriage commitment course and that I had been hiding it from her. She said she was glad that I told her. But I think she is glad because now she knows the clean break would be best.
The conversation ends. Later on today, I had to get something off my chest. It had to be done. I called her and told her that I had been taking the marriage course bcuz my goal was to propose to her by this fall and that I have been trying to reconnect with her in the meanwhile.
I figured that it was time to lay my cards out on the table. I didnt expect a positive response, and I didnt get one. I did it for my sake of not having any regrets of not saying what I feel. I told her that I respected her decisions and understood why our friendship/relationship had failed. I am not angry. I am hurt, and heartbroken.
I feel like others would be angry. It is so bizarer how her and I finished our conversation with neither one of us upset at eachother. I just as though she would hate my guts or that I would despise her. Can this be explained?
We even thought back on good times and we both melted.
Nonetheless, the no contact begins today. And we both declared we will pray for eachother. I have chosen to continue on my path seeking my connection to god and will try to attend the marriage commitment courses. I think the class will be the toughest bcuz it might make me think about this more than I should.
Thanks for all the great advice George. I have learned plenty about myself and still continue to grow as a person.
You have been a good friend. :)
Thanks for writing to me, I appreciate it.
I feel sorry that things didn't turn out for you and in such an inexplicable manner. It almost seems like she started having feelings for you again but then realized that's not what she wanted. Otherwise why would she have cut off contact.
But don't make any decisions based on that hunch because it may be 100% wrong.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com