Not sure whats going onVisitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
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Soooo I am 22 years old. I work at corporation in which my boss is a 34 year old woman. She has been my boss since I was 18 years old and that was really the extent of things. I guess you could say out of nowwhere a few months ago we started getting really close outside of work and started seeing each other. I understand this is an extremely tough situation because not only is she 12 years older then me but she is also my boss which doesnt sit too well with the those higher up in the company once word started getting around. At first I was completely against a relationship with someone that much older, but over time my opinion started to change as we grew closer. Her past has been filled with no marriage, but harsh breakups and poor relationships. I have had my heart broken a few times and she definately has too. Anyway a few days ago, without any pressure at all I kind of asked her where she saw things going. You could tell she was very confused and scared. The very next day (a few days ago) she tells me she is getting scared because of work and thinks we need to go our seperate ways. I accepted that, because I know how important her job is & i thought that was the only reason. Then the next day after that she proceeds to tell me via text message that shes sorry if she hurt me, she never thought it would come to this, she thinks i am sweet but not the one for her. She says shes not ready for a relationship and being my boss just complicates things more. And she apologizes again. I just respond and tell her if thats how she feels then so be it. I told her I thought we had something more special. I know people say things to her about our age gap so I said to her that people may put us down but we need to live our lives. And I just ended by saying that I do care about her so if this is how she wants it then I understand and I am here if she needs anything. She responded one more time with just a Thank You. She said she is going thru some mid-life stuff that women go thru. She said shes really hard on herself & cant let stuff go. She also said she cant just relax and be herself anymore becuz she keeps getting hurt. She said she had fun with me and enjoyed our time but its hard for her to get close right now. SOO sorry for the book but I wanted to cover it all. So do you think she is just feeding me a line or do you think she is being truthful? And also it is so weird seeing her at work under these akward circumstances. I thought this would never happen but I really ended up liking her & I feel like she really likes me too but she is just scared to commit... am i wrong? Please help, thank you.
Based on her past history with relationships, I believe she is telling you the truth.
That and her being your boss just puts a cap on it. She isn't ready to risk her heart and job for you. And, who knows, she may have grown tired of you.
I would chalk this up to experience and move on.
Good luck! George
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