I think im doing this out of order...Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Okay this may run a little long but please try and read all of it. It may be the most interesting question yet. I have read all of the other advice and can't seem to find my problem. Okay it all started when me and him first went out. We went out for 3 months and things were going along very smoothly and i was falling madly in love. Well all of this took a turn for the worst when his ex-girlfriend (who was still his best friend) threatened that if I didnt break up with him that she would tell everyone that I slept with another guy. The other guy was also in on it so if anyone asked he would say yes (he is kind of the school man-slut). With her being his best friend he would have some doubts if it were true and the guy also telling him it was true would look a bit more than coincidence. So I complied with her request and broke up with him knowing it would be the worst thing I'd ever done. For the next 2 years I have been homeschooled so I lost touch with everyone at school. Well then I had gotten in touch with him by chance through a website and when he said that him and the bitchy girl that made us break up werent friends anymore I had to tell him what really happened and he believed me. So, for the past 3 months we have been hanging out and talking on the phone every once in a while and I am falling for him again. I love the way I feel so protected and comforatable when he wraps his arms around me and he makes me laugh at the stupidest things like calling rabbits bunnies. Im deeply in love with him. The only problem is that after we had started hanging out for a while, we kind of kissed which led to us making out, which then led to us having sex. Afterwards he explained to me that he didnt want a "girlfriend" but he wanted us to be a bit more than friends. The next time we hung out we had sex again. I want to get him back but I think Im doing it out of order. I guess u could call us friends with benefits but I want to be more. I already have the guts to tell him how I feel I just have no idea what to say so I wont scare him off. I'm not gonna blurt of the intensity of my feelings but I want him to know that they r there. I want to kind of persuade him that it might not be so bad having a gf u know? I need some words that would help get the talk going and give me an idea to flow with so I know what to say. And if possible what would be the most subtle question to ask to find out if he likes me as much as I like him. Also do u think that me having sex with him so early messed my chances up? If so how do I fix it?
Tell him you are "developing feelings" for him and hope he replies how he feels.
If he doesn't say anything then ask him. That shouldn't scare him away.
To get a talk going on girlfriends, ask him about his ex girlfriends and how did the relationships go. He is sure to give you some clues about his reasons for not wanting a girlfriend.
Not much you can do to take back the sex you gave him. It probably didn't help your chances any. Don't worry about it, it is water under the bridge.
Good luck! George
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