WHAT SHOULD I DO??? PART 2
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Okay, I got your answer and I think that you are right - I think he does still have feelings for me. After I submitted my question to you, though, I sent him a message on FB telling him about the girl that told me that he liked me again a couple of months ago and asked him if it were true. He said that he did not know anything about this but did say "I can say that I haven't forgotten about you, but I can't really say that I feel the same as before". After that, though, he asked how my BF and I were doing. I told him that my BF and I were doing well but I also told him that I still had feelings for him. He did not respond. I don't know what to think of this. In my note I also told him that I loved my current BF but that lately I have been wondering about our relationship. My mom thinks that even though he didn't say so, he still has feelings for me, too. she thinks that he did not respond because I said I loved my BF. A guy that my ex and I both know told me that he talked to my ex the same day that he sent me the first FB message apologizing and he said that my ex said that he misses me and regrets breaking up with me. I don't expect for his feelings to be as strong as they were when we were together (after all, we havent even spoken in 6 mos.) mine aren't as strong either. My mom said that asking about me and my current BF proves even more that he has feelings for me. It's not like we have been friends since we broke up and he is just happy for me and curious. I want to let him know how strong my feelings are. I also told my current BF that I still have feelings for my ex because I didn't think it was fair to be feeling this way and not tell him. He is such a great guy and completely understands and still wants to be with me even though I am sure that it kind of hurt him. I just don't know what to do - I think my ex is the the right guy for me (with a little changing on his part, which I know I can't do, he has to want to do it himself). My mom thinks that there is no way my ex will tell me much about his feelings while I have a BF because it really isn't his place to do so right now. What do you think - does he want me back?
Yes your ex still has feelings for you.
But you are going to have to decide between your BF and your ex.
Your ex hasn't proven that he has changed and isn't very communicative even considering you have another man in your life.
If you want to know if he wants you back, you are going to have to ask him straight out. You will also have to be ready to tell him you are willing to cut off your current BF for him.
Considering how nice your BF is, you are taking a big risk by trying to get back with your ex. But that is your choice.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com