I'm torn to pieces! What do i do?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 9 months! Everything was great! We had some problems with purity because we wanted to stay pure but thats about it. WE did the normal things like fight and things of that nature! One day i broke up with him because i was mad and i wanted to scare him. I knew we would get back together i mean cause i just knew he was the one. Well didnt quite go as planned. it took me like a week to get him back. i cried my eyes out and finally took me back. I asked him if he was doin it because he felt sorry for me or because he really wanted to be with me and he told me he really wanted to be with me. so we got back together. Then a couple of weeks later we got in a fight and he told me he didnt think it was gonna work right now. so i cried and begged him back and it never worked. then one night i finally thought i was gonna get him back. i asked how he was and he said he was sick to his stomach. and i asked him if he has figured out things yet and he said yeah a little bit. he told me that he just got a little scared and said that we were just too serious. so i was so excited. then i asked him what did he think about our future and thats when it fell to pieces. he said he didnt think it would ever work that we just need to be friends. and i asked him why and he said it was just a feeling he has. its been a month now and im going nuts. i sent him a forward for the first time in a couple of weeks and he wrote back and asked me how i was. and we talked for a little while then i let him go.? is he wanting me back...? how do i get him back?? did he really mean that when he said he doesn think its gonna work? what do i do? i love him so much! our love is so rare! i can see him in my future i mean we already had plans and he acted like he did too durin our whole relationship! how could he throw all of this away! We had a relatioship ppl dream of! He was my best friend and now i feel like im left with nothing. i trusted him to not hurt me! im so scared!
Keep working to strengthen the bond between you two.
He could change his mind if you are not too pushy and if you don't get into fights. Your relationship hasn't had a chance to solidify into what you ideally want. It's only been less than 9 months with several break-ups.
Ask him to go out with you "as friends" and then go to a nice restaurant or a concert or whatever. He said he wanted to be friends so he should be willing to do that with you.
Let him know that you still care for him but don't overwhelm him with emotions since he is in a friendship mood right now.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com