I can't understand
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been dating my boyfriend for 1 year and 7 months. We moved in together and have been living together for 8 months and I believed everything was going ok. We had talked about getting married and having kids together. We were even working on getting his debt paid off. The lease was coming to an end so I had been asking him what he wanted to do, renew the lease or move somewhere else. We had even been looking at other apartments. We had broken up once before around the same time last year because he was stressing things but got back together 2 days later. So around this time of the year I was a little nervous because of the break up last time. He had been laid off of his job in January so I knew he was stressed then he got another job only to be let go a month later. I was stressing about money because I rather have him pay his bills then go drink, but he hated me for that. Three days out of the week I was home alone while he was at a bar. He had also started lying to me about not smoking, saying later it was my fault he started again.
Then a week after his birthday he started acting like something was wrong. I kept asking him what was wrong and he said nothing but he wasn't himself. Then one day I asked if he had gotten the day off from work for a trip and he said he didn't get it. Of course I was mad because I know he hadn't made an effort to ask and I got mad at him. This apparently was wrong and we got into an argument. I called him 5 minutes late while heading to work to apologized and he said we needed to talk. That night I came home and he said he wasn't happy and hadnít been for months and needed to think things through. I said just think about things and that I would give him space but he said we are over. I was shocked. I didn't see this coming. He said he just wanted to be friend but I canít do that and see him with someone else. That would hurt too much. I couldnít live in the same apartment with him so I went to my parentís house. I told him to think things through and talk to me a few days later. When I went to get some of my stuff I tried talking to him and he wanted nothing to do with me, like I didnít matter to him anymore. I just donít understand how someone can just shut off feeling for someone and hurt them so badly. He will randomly call or text me to see how Iím doing but the second I ask him whatís going on he starts yelling at me and hating me. It has been three weeks and I canít sleep, eat, or do anything. I just want him back so bad even if he has hurt me like this. I canít even move on really because I still have one more month on the lease to pay for. We have to clean the apartment and he owes me lots of money that he said he would slowly pay me back. I donít know what to do. I lost all my friends through my last relationship and this one so I have no one to turn to. I just wished this never happened and I was still with him.
He treats you like dirt and you keep coming back for more.
My advice is to start living your own separate life and forget about him. He doesn't respect you or take care of you like he should.
It's only been three weeks, so you will start to feel better soon. I hope you do.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com