Never before have I fallen so low...
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Before I begin, I just want to say that I'm not suicidal or suffering from depression, I think it is good I get that clear due to past experiences with getting adive haha :s.
As for background info, I am 16 going on 17, she turned 17 this month (April) we are both on an IB course which ends next year before we go to uni, we go to the same school but have different classes except we take the same external dance class.
Anyways, I have a rather huge issue. This issue being that when I get a GF, I prefer her to be untouched, just as I am, because I want all of our firsts to be together, this girl I like is 'untouched'. But anyways, thats not the actual issue (sorta).
So I like this girl, a lot, she has good looks and an amazing personality. Problem is I asked her out before (1 year ago) and she said no, but I've started to like her again. I find it very strange trying to persue someone that already knows me, so its hard to show her that I'm probably a better person from before (we talk on MSN though). Now I am in a very upset state as of yesterday.., She is a girl that loves to do different things (which is one of the things I like so much about her) and apparently, this Summer holiday on the first week shes staying at this uni in the guy's room who she met. She refered to him as "****ing hot" which is BIG considering she NEVER swears. Not only that, but she said something along the lines of "wow, the thought of me being alone with this guy at night in a room, hehe, kinky". And also, she's not a clubber, shes like the studier type of girl, and the guy wants to take her out clubbing on night and shes agreed, saying she really looks forward to the summer because of being with this guy.
I'm at a loss, I really really like this girl but I don't know how to go about getting her to like me back, because if I fail to do so in about 2 months time, she will be meeting up with this guy where they will probably be doing all sorts of stuff and even sex :(, which will totally crush me.
I guess what I need advice on is how to go about getting her to like me, like what are good tips. Like, when I talk to her should I dwelve into her interests with her or should I compliment her? Or would doing that just annoy her? I have no idea what to do to get her liking me. Plus its uber hard considering she already knows me so I can't make a great first impression because thats gone. What should I do to go about getting her liking me?
Here's a way to build a relationship:
be communicative (share ideas, information, etc.)
be compassionate (share feelings, dreams, etc.)
be affectionate (compliment her, smile a lot, hug, touch, etc.)
do these things honestly and with trust.
She will respond positively.
Concentrate on these topics so that when you talk with her or are with her you will be prepared to present a good impression. Take every opportunity you can because two months will be gone before you know it.
You have an uphill battle because she is really psyched about being with this guy.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com