we got separated for 6 months due to distance and now i dont know if she wants me any more
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Me and my girlfriend or ex or I donít know what to call her, were going out for 15 months, anyways one day she comes to me and she tells me she needs to leave out side the country she got this job opportunity and she really wants to take it and when I say out side the country I mean almost 12 hours difference, so I did not know what to do and I tried to break up with her a couple of weeks later because I loved her so much that I didnít want to get hurt and she told me if she leaves she is not welling to have a long distance relationship but then she started crying and telling me I am everything to her and its hurtful of me to think that she can let go off me that easily and I should've known her better so we stayed with each other till she left the first month she was away we kept on contact and then one day I called her and I couldnít even recognize the person I am talking to on the phone she was talking to me as if I am some one who is bugging the hell out of her an she cant wait to hang up the phone, so I got really pissed off and I went out with the guys for some drinks I got really drunk and I called her and I was like if I told you I can make it to where you are and probably find a job and be close to you would you give us another chance and she responded by saying that she does not know and I was like apparently I donít mean anything anymore and I am not up to your standers but you know what thank you for being honest. And she was like to be honest I do not see this working anymore.
After that in 4 months she came back to be in contact with me again and she is asking me if I am still going there but still in a sound that is not sure if I should be with her or not what should I do what do I get out of this ? Does she wants me ? does she still love me , or even like me because she keeps on pulling away although our relationship was perfect we never had a single fight the entire time we were dating why wouldnít she want that why wouldnít she want a man who she loves or I donít know how she feels now who is welling to get across the globe to somewhere that he doesnít know anyone but her just for her sake ?
You raised some interesting questions.
But, you need to address them to her directly to find out what is going on in her mind. She sounds mixed up, so don't take her first response as truth. Restate what she said and ask her "Is that what you said and do you really mean it?"
Ask her if she wants you to come there... even for a visit.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com