Love of my life walked away
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I was with my ex for 4.5 years. We had many great times, but the past year was different. She moved down about 2 years ago and we bought a place together (big mistake). Well she ended up leaving me because I definitely did not treat her right. She was pressuring us to get married and I was not ready. Towards the end of the relationship, I felt like I could definitely marry her with 2 years. I was going over in my mind how and when I could ask her. We were not on great terms but I knew I had to change my behavior and make her a priority.
We have been apart for about 2 months and she is already seeing another guy. She told me that she does not see us ever getting back together. I know this guy is a rebound guy but she is the type of girl who always needs a guy. I believe that she is only saying we will never be together but she really feels like she needs to do something to push me away. I want to marry this girl but she is not interested in me that way. She says she will always care about me but there is no chance for us even though I am making an attempt to change.
Are these words she is saying her true feelings, or are they just to push me away. Also, what can I do to show her that we are meant for each other and she is the one I want to marry (without pushing her farther away)?
It's only been two months.
Give her time to get over her rebound and start to think more realistically about you. Meanwhile try to maintain a friendship where you can go out as friends from time to time.
Let her know you care about her but that you don't want to be a relationship wrecker regarding her current bf. She should appreciate your consideration.
Be communicative, compassionate, and affectionate. These will build trust and
maybe respark the embers of her love.
My best to you! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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