What to do? Complicated Situation
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have liked his guy for almost year and a half. He has always acted kind to me. I'm not sure what do about my feelings for him. .It has taken me a long time to open up to him because of my family situation, my parents relationship will end in divorce and right now its an awkward living situtation. I live with them because I am in university and have a disability. Anyway my friend is always willing to talk to me and we love to hug each other. I know have real feelings because I get nervous every time I'm around him. I have told this guy some of what I mentioned above and he remains as sweet as ever and a great support.He has met my mom and she likes him and she has told me that she thinks he likes me too. Lately, he has asked about my mom. I have thought of writing him a letter because we never have any opportunties to talk to each other privately. He has been away for seven months for work and I have kept in touch with him, but next month he'll be home again. I was wondering if you have any suggestions about how to handle this?
Rather than write him a letter, I would recommend contacting him by phone.
Or if you write a letter first use that opportunity to ask if it would be ok to talk on the phone. You won't be so nervous on the phone.
Develop some techniques to reduce your nervousness: have a list of topics to talk about, listen closely to what he is saying rather than spinning your mind wonder what you will say, even have a (yes one) glass of wine to loosen yourself up.
Talk with your mother, she has years of world experience to share with you and is probably eager to do so. All of these things will help.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com