Very jealous boys who speak with my GF - 2.5 year old relationship
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I have a 2.5 Year old relationship with a very nice girl.
The problem is that I am too jealous, I admit it as many of my friends told me.
Firstly, she trusts me, I love her very much. We have each's other MSN and YM passwords (meaning we trust each other).. sometimes I enter on her addresses and see some new boys around, when I enter online those boys enter chatting on me like " how are you? * kisses * " etc..
That drives me mad, and then I start telling her and she gets mad telling she only chats with them and tries to explain me that she doesn`t want to be with them or leave me, and then we have a fight :(
Secondly, we went to a party, and there It was a guy on which I was gealous, I was with her..that guy asked her a dance, and I started to be angry and silent, ignoring her, she asked me why and I told her " i want more attention ", we had a fight and from then she doesn`t want to take me to a party anymore, afraid of not spoiling her fun again :(
Lastly, I do feel she has changed on the last 5 months, we go out more rarely, she finds excuses such as (Bad Weather, Have to Learn), and She doesn`t even put pictures with Both of us on her Yahoo Messenger Avatar...:(
What can I do, I hate it when I am too jealous on other boys who chat with her? :( This will ruin my relationship..thx
Everyone is jealous to one degree or the other.
The thing is trying to control it. A lot of jealousy is based on lack of trust. So building trust is a very important aspect of a good relationship. To build strong trust can be built by communication (sharing ideas), compassion (sharing feelings), and affection (sharing happy thoughts and feelings about each other often by physical acts--no not just sex).
This is all easier said than done, but try your hardest to follow the guidance.
Whenever you get jealous, tell yourself "GET OVER IT!!" Get tough with yourself. Of course you don't want some internal feelings taking over your mind and body and making you feel and do things you don't like. Read this webpage on trust, it will help:
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com