Is it too late?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been with my partner for 7 years, we have children together and up until the last month or so things were good. We have been faced with a few difficult situations this year but have pulled through but because of his hard work i began to feel alone and isolated and suggested we have some space (not separation) to help me find myself again but things went wrong and he told me he no longer knows what he wants. I left for a week and we both agreed to try and move on but he is distant with me, always wanting to be out with friends and will not make any move romantically towards me unless like on two occations he has had sexual urges in which he has been really rough to the point where i have bruises on my body. Im worried that he wants to leave but is keeping me hanging on? What advise can you give for me to keep the love that we have strong?
Go back to the basics:
build up trust by communicating frequently, sharing feelings, and being affectionate (not just physically).
But, those abstract ideas are not what you immediately need. You need to go to a professional therapist and get good advice based on a closer view of what is going on. If your husband won't go then go yourself, but tell him that going to a therapist will be far less painful and expensive than splitting (especially for the kids). It is not too late.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com