Crossing the Line..
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Hi, I am a 38 y/o married woman who is currently in a rather awkward relationship outside of the marriage. She & I have been working for the same employer at the same location for over four years now and over the years we have become quite close as friends. She and I had similar marital & children's issues and are separated in age only by two years. We also have lots of common interests and aren't strangers to our spouses as well. However, few months ago when I was at her place alone with her, she kind of crossed the line in our relationship and one thing led to another and since then our friendship has more or less have developed into a more passionate, intimate relationship. Although I was a willing partner at the initial stages, mainly due to curiosity and desire for experimentation, I now realize the mistake and thinking of ways to end the relationship. I do not want to hurt her feelings either. Could you please share some thoughts as to how best I could resolve the situation without making things much more worse for everyone. I really appreciate your thoughts and please do respond in confidence. Thanks so much.
Regarding confidentiality... I followed the normal procedures. I deleted the name of your friend and deleted your email address which you put in the text. Now I am answering your question and will send a copy of the answer to your email (which no one else can see) and putting a copy on the website to share the advice with others.
Concerning your situation... my advice would be to show your email to her as it explains very clearly and kindly the status of your affair. You should also be prepared to explain why you have decided against continuing. It could be fear of exposure and a potential rift with your husband.
Explain to her that you would like to continue your friendship. I think she will understand and possibly have similar thoughts.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com