What is there to do?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I'll start off by saying that we were never actually in a relationship, that was just the most applicable subject. I became interested in her while we were both employed at a restaurant. I gained her friendship and we began to draw closer. One night I asked if we could ever be anything more than friends... she said "probably not". Her reason was that she had just gotten out of a relationship with a guy who had cheated on her four times and wasn't ready to date again. I was crushed, of course. Having gotten to know her had transcended my attraction beyond the physical aspect. I must now tell you that I am a very stubborn person, so I never really accepted the rejection. I tried so hard I ended up pushing her away. Part of the reason I tried is because I got mixed signals from her. First she would be very friendly and flirty, then she would turn cold and distant. I think part of the reason I failed is that I was afraid. Afraid to act, afraid of being wrong. If I acted and was wrong, I could have lost my job. There were times when she would be very open with me and I would withdraw. Times were if I had just touched her... grabbed her hand... kissed her... I love her more than anything in this world. She is one of the few things that has meaning to me. She makes me happy, no matter what kind of mood I was in, just seeing her made me smile. I have since quit my job and never see her anymore but she is always on my mind. She is the last thing I think about when I go to sleep and the first thing I think about when I wake up. I dream about being with her and awake in agony because I know it is but a dream. I would give anything to make her happy. She is so beautiful when she smiles. Her smile is brighter than any star in the Universe and the world is a better place because of her... to me at least. I want so badly to talk to her again, but she won't respond to anything. And I'm afraid that if I go to her in person it will just upset her more. I'm so lost right now and I just want to know if there is anything I can do to put things right.
You have gotten hooked by a woman who "won't respoind to anything."
When you asked about being more than friends she said it would not be possible.
You are in great pain and there is probably nothing that will change her.
My advice is to see a professional therapist as soon as possible to help you deal with this crisis in your life.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com