How do I make her see?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Ok, I looked through and I'm pretty sure this hasn't been covered. I've found a girl that I'm madly in love with and would do anything for and she actually shares a few of the same feelings for me. The problem is, she just got out of a very serious relationship that she put a lot into and she got hurt in the end and now she's scared to get into another relationship. And it wouldn't be that bad but I'm a few years older than her and I will be going to college next year while she stays in high school and she really doesn't like the idea of that. But I've been at it for months trying to prove to her that not everybody is like the last guy that hurt her. I've sent flowers, surprised her with teddy bears in her locker at school, wrote poems, etc. But each time she tells me that she can't be anything more than friends. How can I prove to her that I won't go off to college and leave her and that if she gives me a chance then I can show her that things can be different than her last relationship?
Keep trying. Something might work.
The biggest problem is college. You didn't mention how far away your college is, but no matter how far it will put a strain on your relationship. She can't accept another strain right now. Think carefully about how you can make college work for the both of you. Find some instances in your school where the girl is dating a college guy and it is working. Describe them to your gf.
You are in a difficult situation and will have to keep working at making her see things in a better light. Have you been dating...even just as friends? Give it a try.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com