Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am in love with a man, we were together last year but i did have doubts that he likes another woman the same age as me, so i kept making fights and nagging and he broke up with me. after that we kept getting closer and then getting far till he came and asked me 2 days ago to marry him, but he said he wants to confess with something to me first, he said that a month ago this woman came and told him she has likes him and so did he tell her so, and things between them were getting in progress until he told her he is close to god so she didn't like it and she flipped out, he said that this situation tought him a lesson about who she really is, and he found out that she is unstable and insecure. He told me that there was always this inner struggle in him between me and her , but he now knows that i'm the best for him and his future children. i told him i feel like a backup he did swear i'm not, so i asked him if we were both available, who would he choose, he said that this is not a fair question because it's been 2 years now and this inner struggle inside of him and he can't decide between us both, and when he chose me first we had fights and things didn't work , and when he chose her after that , she flipped out, so this situation made it easy for him to take the decision.
My question is,am i really a back up, or it's normal for men to be torn between 2 women? some people told me that a man who can't decide between 2 women is something normal and that he's a good man because he was honest with me and told me from the first place. please let me know your advice about this
What worries me is your fighting.
No matter what the answer is to the question of back-up, you still have a history of fighting. Is that resolved or is this still something to worry about?
It was good that he was honest with you and it isn't unusual for a man to be attracted to two different women. So he sounds normal.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com